Post by Deleted on Jan 8, 2011 6:27:48 GMT -5
I'm having an experience in this league that I've never encountered anywhere else. Through these last few months, I've experienced a couple of GM's feeling frustrated, slighted, or even angry because I have not "made them an offer". I've never experienced this before, and don't really even know how to reply.
I'm making this public so it can all come to the surface and we can resolve things gentlemanly as a group.
First off, email/messaging is a horrible way to communicate. We all know this. SO much is lost in translation, and there's so much room for misunderstanding and misinterpretation. I've done it myself a hundred times, including with messages in this league. Nature of the beast.
Second, we all have different styles of communicating & negotiating. Just cause somebody doesn't do things the way you do doesn't mean that they're slighting you, not committed, not participating, trying to rip you off, etc. It could just be as simple as, hey, we have different styles.
Third, this is an awesomely complex and active league. So many constantly moving variables. Sometimes it's just not the time to present an offer. Sometimes there doesn't appear to be a fit. Maybe one offer might hinge on a couple other things happening. Or maybe we just need to do some research, and get back to you. It's a complex, ever changing league. We all know this, so let's account for it.
Finally, trust. Communicate. Give the benefit of the doubt. If you're unclear, ask.
I'm not defending nor supporting my particular style. I've had awesomely fun and smooth negotiations with some, rocky and frustrating with others. I'm equally responsible for both.
I'm just saying, hey, we're all in this together, we've got a ROCKING league here, the best I've ever been involved with. So maybe we could communicate a bit better to sometimes make the ride a bit more enjoyable.
Thanks
I'm making this public so it can all come to the surface and we can resolve things gentlemanly as a group.
First off, email/messaging is a horrible way to communicate. We all know this. SO much is lost in translation, and there's so much room for misunderstanding and misinterpretation. I've done it myself a hundred times, including with messages in this league. Nature of the beast.
Second, we all have different styles of communicating & negotiating. Just cause somebody doesn't do things the way you do doesn't mean that they're slighting you, not committed, not participating, trying to rip you off, etc. It could just be as simple as, hey, we have different styles.
Third, this is an awesomely complex and active league. So many constantly moving variables. Sometimes it's just not the time to present an offer. Sometimes there doesn't appear to be a fit. Maybe one offer might hinge on a couple other things happening. Or maybe we just need to do some research, and get back to you. It's a complex, ever changing league. We all know this, so let's account for it.
Finally, trust. Communicate. Give the benefit of the doubt. If you're unclear, ask.
I'm not defending nor supporting my particular style. I've had awesomely fun and smooth negotiations with some, rocky and frustrating with others. I'm equally responsible for both.
I'm just saying, hey, we're all in this together, we've got a ROCKING league here, the best I've ever been involved with. So maybe we could communicate a bit better to sometimes make the ride a bit more enjoyable.
Thanks